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Post by ronmione on May 7, 2008 10:34:15 GMT -5
Guys... I'm kinda feeling lonely at the moment... I feel like the world is against me... Why is that? I just didn't know who else to talk to but my girls  ~Julie~ |
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Post by megan on May 7, 2008 10:48:00 GMT -5
Awww, bunny.  It's easy to feel like the world is against you when it's you against the world. Why so lonely? |
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Post by ronmione on May 7, 2008 11:14:41 GMT -5
Thanx Megan... I dunno... I've been having trouble in school work... I mean, I'm supposed to be graduating, but one of the lecturers' being a pain in the butt, and keeps giving me all these corrections on my finals paper, and I have to keep going back to see him to get them revised... Then there's the whole "no boyfriend" thing in my life... I'm kinda used to not having one coz I've been so busy with school, but suddenly I'm sitting at home and realize... I'm alone... Then today this major thing happened... My mum&dad are outta town, they just left this evening... And so I'm at home with my sister, her hubby and their little adorable daughter... I'm having fun playing with my niece and watching AI with my sister... But her hubby was kinda giving me the cold shoulder, ignoring me when I talked and stuff... Acted like I was some kinda ghost, he talks right thru me... I asked my sister what the hell was up with him, and she tells me that he was offended coz yesterday I accused him of losing alot of my old legos while he was playing with my niece... It wasn't really a big deal, but these legos are like memories of my childhood, and I wanted my niece to play with them. She seems to be a really behaved girl when she plays with me, but when she plays with her dad, things get lost and stuff... He kinda has a bad habit of losing things and telling little white lies. Maybe I was wrong for the accusation tone I threw at him yesterday... But it was all true, he loses EVERYTHING! The sad part was that my sister kinda sided on him, I understand that totally too, coz it's her hubby and all... But OMG! I feel so alone! Me and my sister are like best friends from the day I was born... Kinda sad to face the fact that she doesn't have my back anymore... I just feel really, really lonely ~Julie~ |
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Post by megan on May 7, 2008 11:36:18 GMT -5
It always seems like bad happens all at once and good takes forever to happen, doesn't it? Plugging away at your finals paper might seem like a pain in the butt now, but it will definitely pay off when you're on the other side of graduating and it sounds like that will happen soon. There's nothing wrong with putting bettering yourself before finding a guy. Sometimes it's even easier to feel like you have more to offer when you don't have the distraction of school and coursework. Being alone isn't the same as being lonely. I wholeheartedly believe that the minute you open yourself up to letting someone find you (instead of working tirelessly to find someone) is when everything clicks into place. Does that make sense? The thing with your sister is sad. As lives evolve, people's priorities and allegiances change. I totally get that you want your niece to enjoy the toys you did, but maybe it's just smarter to keep them packed away when your brother-in-law is around. You can't really do anything to change his absentmindedness and lack of respect for your things, but you can at least take the stuff he loses and lies about out of the equation and not give him a chance to stress you out over it. |
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Post by ronmione on May 7, 2008 11:46:27 GMT -5
OMG Megan! Where have u been all my life?! You totally made me feeling better 200% I really didn't know who could understand what I'm going thru... I really just wanted to curl up and cry... But I thought I'd give this forum a shot coz everyone's always so warm here... And now I feel so much better... Thanx so much Megan, ur like the older sister I've missed  U've put a smile back on my face  Now, all I have to do is get back on my feet, and just do exactly what my lecturer tells me to do... As long as this will all end with graduation! No matter how long it takes! And ur right about the boyfriend thing... I think if I had a boyf right now, I really wouldn't have time for him... With all the work I have to do at this very moment... I can't wait till I can scan out guys again... It's really been a loooong while. And bout my brother-in-law, I think I'll try apologizing to him tomorrow... And the next time he comes to play with his daughter, I'm keeping the good toys locked faaar far away... Thanx again so much Megan! Your advise really helped me out ~Julie~ |
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Post by megan on May 7, 2008 11:55:33 GMT -5
I'm glad, doll.
Everything seems harder to figure out when it feels like it's all stacked on top of each other. When you're overwhelmed, take a minute and decide what is bugging the crap out of you the MOST at that moment, and take a second to put it in perspective and decide what to do about it. When that has a step taken toward it, it's off the pile and you can concentrate on the next thing. It might take several times going through a list of what ails before they are truly taken care of, but it's too hard to try and fix everything 100% at one time.
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Post by ronmione on May 7, 2008 12:12:56 GMT -5
That's a great way of seeing it... Thanx for the insights... I feel tons much better! Thanx so much Megan I think I'll fix the relationship with my brother-in-law first, coz, well, it was kinda my fault in the 1st place... I can imagine how it must've felt being accused for things. Even if he did do it, it must've been really hard to take being accused. I think I'll just leave it at that... When this is done, I'll concentrate on my other problems... Thanx Megan ~Julie~ |
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Post by megan on May 7, 2008 12:16:57 GMT -5
No problem. Let me know how it works out.
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Post by ronmione on May 7, 2008 12:23:04 GMT -5
Sure will ~Julie~ |
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U've put a smile back on my face 
